As true as these sentiments are in general, they are not formulaic. We like formulas…we like predictability. Yet, it is not that simple. Just ask Job...the advice of his friends was full of formulaic misapplication of truths. Let's be careful to appreciate the general truth that God is indeed at work to mold and shape us via the varied circumstances He ordains for us to walk through, but not in a formulaic fashion that is ready to judge oneself or others based on a particular event or time of life.
Our transformation is not complete in a day. Our Father conforms us over time to be like Jesus. Be patient with yourself and with others. Sometimes I find myself losing courage, feeling hardened and embittered or proud rather than resembling the beautiful, grace-filled, humble child I know I ought to be as one of God's kids in response to both suffering and His mercies. Do you? He is still at work. Tell the Accuser to go jump in a lake, and continue to entrust yourself to your Father who will help you get back up. A righteous man that falls seven times, gets up eight. Our Father is not finished with us yet.