Here's a caution: Hasty surgeons can resemble butchers who just love the thrill of cutting. We've all heard the stories of organs being removed unnecessarily due to lack of proper investigation or the wrong limbs removed due to inaccurate information. A good surgeon runs tests BEFORE surgery to make sure the surgery is required, and if so, what tools and plan are needed to have optimal health with minimal scarring. What a helpful reminder to ask questions, investigate, and be a good listener. Afterward, the surgeon runs more tests to make sure the tool applied did what was intended...if it hasn't, more repair work needs to be done. The goal is restoration and life in Christ. I really appreciated Doug Wilson's sentiment expressed in the movie "Collision"...the goal is not to win the argument, but to win the man.
Lord, make me a good and faithful friend (and parent). Grant me discernment in knowing what attention and what kind of attention each relationship needs. Does the offense of a friend or child need a band-aid (cover it), a knife applied in love, or some other tool? Please grant me Your love and grace to apply the right remedy. And Lord, help my friends continue to be good friends to me. I thank you for them! They are truly gifts from Your hand. Help me to not be overly critical of the tools they use in attempts to love me, but rather to be gracious knowing how difficult it is to bring correction correctly. I pray this in the name of Jesus, for His glory and the joy of His people, amen.